the discussion , which focuses on brides from russia and the philippines and has so far garnered more than 10,000 comments , asked users to spill the beans on what ` surprised ' them the most when they started living with their spouses .
one user described the process of ` ordering ' a bride from russia or the philippines , where thousands of women are desperate to start a new life for themselves in europe and the us .
` when a man becomes serious about a few women , he will want to purchase the girl 's address to send letters and gifts .